No one like condoms. I get it. And birth control are so convenient right? You can have sex whenever you want to, with nothing to worry about. Brilliant. But…. There may be a few forgotten little things to take into consideration :

First of all, you can’t tell if she really likes you.

Maybe she does, but the pill is messing up with the natural sense of attraction. Too many woman found out after they stopped taking it, that they are no longer into their partner. Coincidence?

In addition to that, it increases her chances for developing depression and anxiety down the road, which honestly aren’t even real but happening because the pill is depleting her body from important nutrients like Zinc, Magnesium, Iodine, folate and other B-Vitamins… that are really important for keeping good mood. Plus, it weakens her liver function, which is also a central organ in keeping the good vibes. And obviously, that’ll influence both your relationship with her, and her behaviour as a mother later on.

Furthermore, her declining health as a result from taking those pills will cost so much time and way more money to repair. You don’t wanna be spending time running around to doctor’s appointments, that don’t even know how to help, and trying to find your way in the maze of conventional and alternative medicine. It’s a lot of work, that for the most part, isn’t always completely done. Save yourself the trouble.

And a side note : her orgasmic experience will be 10 times better without it.

And as women, what are the options for us? There is no other good choice but understanding our bodies and connecting to our natural biology. With or without tracking apps and measuring devices, we can learn to live cyclically – sex life included. The benefit is not just a personal one, as the echo is too loud to ignore.

Normalising the reality of those side effects is just off. It’s weird. It shouldn’t be like that, and it’s happening all over the place. By family members, educators, doctors, friends, and of course – sexual partners. We don’t need more research on the effects of contraceptives, we need to believe women for their lived experience.

Nikki Howard said it all –

I recommend having a look at the book “This is your Brain on Birth control” by Sarah Hill, to get some context.

As well as watching the film “The Business of Birth Control” : https://www.thebusinessof.life/the-business-of-birth-control

Are copper IUDs a better alternative? Nope. Not really. Copper toxicity is dangerous for various reasons, and a foreign item that makes a women infertile – purposely, is not exactly safe. Think about it for a second, it is about making her body dysfunctional..

It’s about time for new norms.